'I'm quitting in January': Manager doesn't ‘feel like’ working on Christmas then tries to guilt-trip an employee into covering their shift; he flat out refuses

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    Posted by u/throwawayidiot1838r 1 day ago Boss making me work christmas so she doesn't have to So, originally my boss told me she didn't want me here on christmas, because I have young kids at home. She told me several times that I do not have to come in.
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    Well the supervisor who was supposed to work christmas is refusing to. And my manager doesn't want to come in so now she's saying I have to. Now look, if they were desperate for someone I would have obliged. But the
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    simple fact 1. She reiterated several times I wasn't coming and 2. She wants me to come so SHE doesn't have to. I'm livid. I made plans with my children for the whole day and now it's cut short. All because my manager doesn't "feel like coming"
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    UPDATE: I will be home for christmas. I still feel some guilt because that's the type of person I am, I don't like letting anyone down even at my own expense. I did offer to cover new years as I can't stay awake past 930 so I don't celebrate.
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    cero1399 1 day ago Don't go in. "Since you said i have christmas off i made commitments that can't be cancelled now" Reply Share 1.5k throwawayidiot1838r OP 1 day ago I'm tempted. I'm quitting in January so honestly don't have a ..... of alot to lose.
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    HubertusCatus88 1 day ago If you're quitting in January why the would you go in at Christmas? Stay home with your kids. Both you and they will be much happier that way.
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    shobeurself888 23 hr. ago There is only so many Christmas's you get with your young kids. Reply Share... 135 NarwhalAdditional340 22 hr. ago Exactly. I'm well into adulthood and I still remember every holiday that my parents missed. It's not worth it. Go be with your children on Christmas.
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    Verbal-Soup 15 hr. ago Honestly this. I see your update but regardless of that, going forward, never sacrifice your family life any more than you have to, for corporate America. I busted my for corporate America for 15 years, working free weekends and ot because it was a smaller branch. Never took breaks and had 10 min lunches. But the second I made a mistake I would get pulled into an office and chewed out. It didn't matter that a thousand things went right beforehand. I'm so glad I'm outta the
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    belkarbitterleaf 1 day ago Don't just be tempted, do it. Especially if the boss doesn't know you plan to quit. Reply Share... 197 throwawayidiot1838r OP 1 day ago She knows I'm quitting, I'm quitting to do student teaching. And I highly doubt they'd fire me if I don't come christmas because they're desperate as for people. I'm the "veteran" in my position but somehow all the other kids don't have to come in. It's dumb
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    Liquid Golds 1 day ago Don't go in. The only people that will remember you working holidays and working late is your kids Reply Share 449 HereToo Upvote 23 hr. ago That is a good line to remember.
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    AtomicSamuraiCyborg 23 hr. ago that then. You only get so many Christmases with your kid. Your boss can do it. 24 Reply Share ... quietriotress 23 hr. ago Listen to literally everyone here. This job doesn't matter. Your children WILL remember you chose a job you're quitting in a week anyway, over them. On Christmas. Take a step back and listen to these comments. And your gut.
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    Willabee_Rags. 1 day ago if youre quitting anyway then dont you dare show up there for christmas or youre just as bad as the boss is by enabling their toxic behaviour. enjoy the time off with your family and Merry Christmas to you 257 Reply Share throwawayidiot1838r OP 1 day ago I'm trying to build up the courage because I hate confrontation. But it's not fair at all. Like I said I would've rearranged stuff if she really needed me. But she doesnt
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    Chaos-ensues 1 day ago LET IT ALL BURN TO THE GROUND.
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    Another_Random_Chap 1 day ago 'No.' is a complete sentence. Reply Share 48 mudokin 23 hr. ago And if they don't understand the first time. "NOOOOOO00000000!!!" is also and adequate and full sentence that explicitly shows emphasis on the matter that there is no way in that you are going into work.
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    midwest73 23 hr. ago "But we're like family here.…....." You have to stop worrying about confrontation or this walking all over you AND your family scenario will always be the result. You go in and point blank tell them "You told me you didn't want me working Christmas due to having family. Since you reiterated that, I made plans that cannot be cancelled. I will be taking Christmas off as you wanted me to."
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    Slight_Hat_9872 - 23 hr. ago I always love how people will rant and post to this sub, but in reality already said yes to what they are complaining about. Seeing you are quitting in January just makes this whole rant even more perplexing
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    Party Divide_3491 - 20 hr. ago Dude. This Christmas with your kids you'll never get back. You only have 15 or 16 of these pretty much. If you are quitting in January, don't waste 1/15th of your kids Christmas' on some manager who together. I really hope doesn't have their you can do it. Life is too short.
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    Awkward_Map_8664 23 hr. ago Call their bluff- they can do the Xmas shift or they can be a person down on headcount and have to do the Xmas shift. You made plans, this is a management problem. 4↓ Reply Share AtTheEastPole 22 hr. ago Nope, sorry. I've already made plans. No take backsies.
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    Dapper_Platform_1222 22 hr. ago Well the supervisor who was supposed to work christmas is refusing to. refusal is an option. Your boss sounds too weak to do anything Reply Share 4 kitchenwitchin 20 hr. ago "Sorry, I'm going to be out of town with my kids and out of cell range"
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    Menmyhook 19 hr. ago That's a management problem. Don't feel guilty stick to your plans Reply Share... 4 omafietser 1 day ago Inform in writing that you have made plans and cannot accommodate this request. Ignore the noise and stand your ground.
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    StormRage85 22 hr. ago They're counting on you not wanting a confrontation. You've made plans for that day. Don't say you're sorry either. It isn't your fault so you have nothing to apologise for and it's not being polite to apologise, it gives them a way to guilt you into it. As many others have said in this thread... "No" is a complete sentence. Enjoy Christmas with your family.

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